A mother always worries about her children, whether they are young or older. The fears I am currently facing are about my children. I am scared of...
- Ahren being stuck in a job he hates and talking about getting a new job that is hours away from home.
- Zachary graduating from college and potentially getting a job on the other side of the country in CA.
- Brandon going away to college in the fall.
These things may not seem scary, but as their mother, it is. I'm sure other mom's out there can understand how I feel. The fear of your child moving far away is bad enough, but all three of my boys?! It's devastating! I know, I know... all children grow up and leave the nest. They may be ready to leave, but I
'm not ready to let go. The feelings of sadness, grief, depression, emptiness and loss are overwhelming. I'm having difficulty coping with the thought of an empty nest.
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| Ahren, me, Brandon and Zachary |
Most of my life I have focused on raising my boys and caring for the home and family. It seems like all of a sudden my kids are gone!
What do I do now?
Recently a good friend made a statement that has helped me through a few bad days. She said "Congratulations, you are blessed! Give yourself a big pat on the back for raising wonderful boys!".
She is right!! I am very blessed.
I will begin this new stage of being a parent whether I am ready or not. I have to learn the delicate balance of letting the boys know they have my support but at the same time allowing them to be independent.
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ften easier said than done.
Tami...I can definitely relate. Of course, as you know, I was thrown into the Empty Nest Syndrome without any warning, but I'm making it. It isn't like I have much of a choice. It is very hard, but try and find comfort in knowing that you've done an awesome job as a mom and that it will continue, just in a different way. Hugs!
ReplyDeleteApril, thank you for your kind words and hugs! I'm sorry about your circumstances. You're right, neither of us have a choice. All we can hope for is the things we have taught them carry over into their adulthood. {{Hugs}} right back at'cha!!
ReplyDeleteIn this moment, I am very aware that I am raising my three children to leave me. One day. And that is good and right. that does NOT mean that I will be ready to let them go when that time comes! and I am willing to bet even though right now I am wishing for some quiet, peaceful moments - there will likely come a day when the house is TOO quiet and peaceful. LOL
ReplyDeleteI guess that is just the way of it. But if I can say like you, that I have raised 3 wonderful kids? that will make it worth it. so yes - Congrats!! :)
I can say by reading your blog that you are an excellent mom! Every parent wishes for some quiet time. LOL Luckily for me I have my day care kids to fill my house with laughter during the day. Night time the house is quiet and it's when I miss my boys the most! I have to learn how to enjoy the quiet house. =D
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